use this to be appreciated by others

 if you want to create a stronger bond with a person 

instead of seeking things in common that you like 

try to find things in common that you dislike

find what this person dislikes doing 

most of us find it difficult to express what we dislike 

or don't enjoy 

in order to avoid being see was separate from the group 

if you manage to find what your target dislikes or doesn't enjoy 

you will create a stronger connections between you 

this people will feel much closer to you 

because you both dislike something in common 

this effect is called "appreciation through negativity"

and this is very effective at making deeper connections with each other.